This quote stood out to me this morning when reading Elizabeth Gilbert’s “Big Magic” book.
“My fear always made predictably boring decisions, like a choose- your- own- ending book that always had the same ending: nothingness”
This is SO true. When we let fear run our lives, nothing happens. We choose the safe option or do nothing at all, and nothing changes. And yet, it’s still hard to move forward sometimes. I’ve had many fears that have held me back in the past and sometimes still raise their ugly heads.
Fear of not being good enough, fear of being seen, fear of not being good enough, fear of what others will think, fear of change itself, fear of not being good enough, fear of what’s on the other side of change, and so on.
The thing with fear, it’s not going to go away, we need to keep practicing overcoming it, not letting it control us and allow ourselves to experience new things.
I have a fear of calling places when I’m not sure who will answer the phone or what their response will be to my question or if I’ll know what to say to explain myself in a way they’ll know what I need. And yet, I’ve had to do that over and over and over again this month in order to achieve something that is super important to me. I’ve spent days NOT calling and sending emails instead when I could get away with it. I know part of this is the fear of new beginnings…knowing that the result of these calls will be the start of a big change for our family and more importantly, a huge change for me.
But it’s worth it. It’s worth stopping my favourite thing: “avoidance cleaning”. Man is my house clean and organized when I’m not wanting to do something!
This new start will be exciting. But I had to learn to fight for it first, to allow myself this change, to learn that change is okay. I really despise all the cliche terms that I learned when I trained as a Life Coach for a big Personal Development company, but the one screaming at me now is “feel the fear and do it anyway”. In this case, this is what is required.
What really helped me too was people on my case asking if I had heard from these companies I was supposed to call. Each time they asked was a reminder for me to get my butt in gear and make the call, follow up, nag if need be!
So this is me, reminding you.
Overcome your fear.
Do something, one something today towards something you’ve been putting off due to fear, worry, feeling unsure.
And then report back and let me know how it felt and what changed.
I’m here for you!